Yes, you do have to make some decisions, TFC. I suspect, though you haven't said so, that he hasn't really changed much from two months ago. Did you perhaps overreact to some slight thawing in what I increasingly see as a core arrogance your husband isn’t even aware of?

TFC, I have felt for a long time that the best chance for your marriage to survive was for both of you to undergo some deep, extended marital counseling. I haven’t seen anything that makes me want to reevaluate that. Frankly, I earnestly believe you two have problems that were in place long before both of your adulteries, and none of those other problems are being addressed, much less resolved. I know it’s tough finding times when both of your schedules (and the MC’s schedule) have spaces in which to plug a session, but I think it’s absolutely paramount that you and he begin to work on the reasons all this is happening before your depression deepens and you give up. And, btw, if your MC isn’t tough enough to handle things and give you the forum you need to express your thoughts, find another one.