Mel...

I hear what your saying. I was thinking about getting in touch with the Dr. I have been plan Aing my xxx off for the past 2 years. You are correct about the commitment issues. I met with pastors today to discuss (she is a trained counsellor as well). My W's history is against her. She definitely is in need of something... the same as her Mom. My W just doesn't know what she's got.

As to the bills. We have most of it separated. I am working to finish the rest. We were just paying off bills from the sale of the house... the money just came in a couple of weeks ago. I was about to consolidate the remaining loans with her new loan that she got right after she moved out.... a 7 year loan on a 2005 Ford Escape. She is in way over her head with her budgets. I wonder if the new guy has money. Good thing I didn't go through with it. I'm calling for financil advice with the separation today.

Shaden


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!