My WW's twin sister is talking to OM's twin brother. It didn't seem as intimate, but still inappropriate. I have a copy of one email from her to him discussing her own marital problems. Should my next step be to contact her husband?

3 things about this...

1) her husband has been backstabbing me and supporting my W.
(I know... wrong is wrong regardless of what the person is like or doing... but I could see him somehow twisting me contacting him to his advantage with his W... putting me down for stooping to that level, which he would never do)

2) I did tell his W that I knew about it and it was wrong. I do agree that she needs to set boundaries in her marriage... probably separate, but I also said that I would leave it up to her to figure it out with him. I regretted this right away... I know, Mel... isn't it you who says that a bad promise made should not be kept.

3) Most importantly... her H is an alchaholic and has hit her a couple of times already. By telling him, am I putting his W and kids in danger?


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.