All that said, I do think it can be a fine line between simply revealing the truth... and involving the kids in an unhealthy way. "using them" if you will. From what I've read of your posts, I trust that you will continue to do what's best for them, and not cross that line.

I agree very much with Smartcookie, you aren't getting the kids involved any more than they already were involved. they need to know what is going on in their lives so they can protect themselves. On the other hand, using them to get back or putting them in the middle would be bad for them.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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