One thing I can say. There is a HUGE difference in my behaviour around WW this time as opposed to 2 years ago. Back then I was moping and crying and unfocused. I was a wreck.

This time... besides showing some anger when I first found out and when she was upset about me telling the boys... and once my voice cracked behind some tears when I told her I still loved her... that I wouldn't have much more time to say that... Otherwise, I have been happy and friendly and confident.

Tonight when I called, she was napping and sounding very depressed. I bet she is feeling some shame or guilt. Or maybe OM didn't call when he said he was going to ... probably has another GF in his hometown... or other GFs online. It would be hard to juggle them all. The other option is that she is so tired because she was up all night talking to OM.... their loss.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.