I have been contacting my lawyer and will be going hard through him. I was all set to settle with my W tomorrow night and then go dark... but now I have to wait until lawyers settle everything... that could take a while.

I have no idea what to do in the meantime.

My conversation last night had one goal... it might have been the wrong goal... but it was to show calm in a conversation about her and OM. I was not angry or pushy. I stated my points and asked questions. It still might have been a mistake, but was not done to have an amicable divorce. I wanted her to see that I was not falling apart anymore over her.

I would like to go to Plan B as soon as possible.

Are you saying no more discussions about OM and WW?

BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.