Please understand I'm not trying to hurt your feelings...

and I was a teenager as I suffered through my parents D.

It all affected me greatly.......and I buried all my feelings as did my siblings. We knew we couldn't change any of the decisions my parents were making, nor were we in a position to protest. I even went as far as to try to make my mom feel better and tell her how much happier I was that they were divorced.

I am not going to tell you what to do!!!!!!!!!

I only asked you to ask youself some questions..

I don't want you to agree with me or the rest of the world. I am only asking that you look from a different angle.

You keep asking ...so here we go ...
IMO What I would suggest is that you spend holidays with your kids without your X and without your BF and protect your relationship with your kids until the day they move out.... and then you can "move on" with your BF after that....
Be a parent first until its your time again....
Protect your kids even from your X by telling them truths they can take with them into the future....
Your X's whys were lies and that hasn't changed, don't allow that to be embraced by youself or your children.

As far as your X - Well he's not your responsibility...





Recovery began 10/07;

Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.