I'm sure this is painful to you on a different scale. And I applaud your trying to recover. Just be aware that it is a slow slow process. One day he will be ok, the next MINUTE he will be upset. It is normal. Unfortunately for the first 6 months, it's pretty much all the BS thinks about. They are consumed by it. So what he is thinking about is what he will talk about. He's not trying to rub it in your face. ok?

Great about the EN questionnaire. The more honest you can be with it, the better. If you both understand that you are not criticizing, just explaining YOUR NEEDS, you'll get the most benefit.

Kara, being betrayed by the one you love, IMO, is the most devastating thing that can happen to a person. I never would have thought the trauma would be so great. Try to understand his pain and be patient.

DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
In recovery