Hello !
I am very new to this site so bare with me. I have been with my BF for 5 yrs. We have lived together for a year and a half. Just before the Holidays I found out he cheated on me with a Hooters waitress! I packed a bag and left for about a week to clear my head. I have since came back and we are trying to gain back the trust but it is so hard and being that we are not married and we have already been together so long I am now doubting if he is the one and wondering if I should just stop spinning my wheels and move on from this relationship. I love him so much! he is my best friend, my rock in so many ways. We have grown so much together and have been through everything! Our relationship has always pretty much been on his time frame, meaning he controlled how fast OR SLOW we moved. It took him three years to even say he loved me ( I loved him so much I waited and loved enough for the both of us) then he was unsure about living together and I waited till he was ready. He finally was ready and four months after moving in he started seeing the Hooters Waitress. A friend told me they saw him with her and I confronted him but he made up some story that she was just a random person sitting next to him at a full bar. I believed him. months later that same friend told me he saw him out again with the same woman at a different bar. No getting out if it then! He broke down and confessed to talking to her every once in a while but said it was texts here and there and they meet for drinks a few times and NO PHYSICAL contact. He broke down and promised he would never hurt me again , he cried ( HE NEVER CRIES) , He said that it was just his male ego and a stupid mistake. I decided to forgive him all the while I knew in my gut he was lying about the no physical contact thing. Well months after that I saw a text message saying " I feel so used love, We had sex and more" I was livid! He said it was from the same Hooters girl and that he did have sex once with her. He cried like a baby and begged me to stay. He said she continued to text him and he was telling her he didn't want to see her anymore and thats why she sent that text. The thing that scares me is how GOOD he was at lying! He looked me in the eyes and lied to my face and did it SO WELL. I know he is sorry and I think he realizes what he has with me now but I fear it is too little too late. Should I just move on or stick it out with someone I can't trust? I am so confussed because I love him so much. I feel like I have put in ALL this time and work into our relationship and NOW he FINALLY realizes what he has but I am the one questioning us now. Its like we are never really 100 % on the same page. I know that if we ever were we would be great but I worry that will never happen now. PLEASE HELP! I don't know what to do!!! frown

Last edited by beargrl26; 01/15/09 03:41 PM.