Originally Posted by FaithHopeLove
I know pride goes before a fall, but really, I can't imagine myself in an affair in any circumstance, before or after my husband's affairs. For one thing men hitting on me makes me want to puke It has since I have been married. I lose any respect for any man, especially married men, who exhibit any inappropriate attention to a married woman or a woman other than his wife. I am very monogamous. And I think for those of us that ARE pre-disposed to this level of faithfulness also have the hardest time SEEING potential problems and then recovering when the worst happens. Nothing hurts worse than when something is done to us, that we would never do.

I agree with this.

So when you are looking at a lifetime mate, it stands to reason that a bad set of circumstances, timing and needs not met can contribute to infidelity in people that are vulnerable to this weakness.

This makes sense. I do think my H is "weaker" than me in the areas that can make or break a relationship. I don't know if that weakness is due to biology, upbringing, values, character, or a combination of things. But it can't be argued that at some point that weakness kicked in and overrode all sense of decency and morals.

It is just a shame that we don't come with a warning label or a disclaimer before we mate for life.

LOL although we might all be in that gaga love stage that we overlook the redflag until it's too late. People have had warning labels on cigarettes for decades and still claim ignorance. As a further deterent, can the label come with a :twobyfour: if we ignore the warning?

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exWH - serial cheater
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