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Because it's embarrassing!! DH thought it was funny but I wasn't so sure.


He was right! It IS funny! grin

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Scotland,

You are doing such a GREAT job!

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Because it's embarrassing!! DH thought it was funny but I wasn't so sure.


He was right! It IS funny! grin

It's a little bit funnier now but at the time I didn't think it was so funny...I didn't even know how to answer them! I am sure I turned about 10 different shades of red while I thrashed about the car trying to get my phone back from them! blush


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Thanx for the encouragement. I am definitely going to do my best with the Plan B. I also hope I can keep it up as well. I am just going to keep remembering that I am doing that to save myself any more pain.

I am only doing so well since I got the advice from you guys to do those things to get in their A. I am now having FUN with it and coming up with new ways to get in to his head. I figure it works in many ways. I get to have a space in his head that OW can't get to. I also get to speed up the jealous, insecure, crazy person who I am sure is in her. That part I won't actually know about since I will be in Plan B but I have a great imagination.

It is also easy to think of things that I can do that I will be able to keep up when he comes back. If I were doing things I wouldn't be able to do later, I think that would be unfair to him and more importantly, ME. The love notes, texts and flirting I most definitely will be able to keep up.

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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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Scotland,

Ohhh, you're soooo taking up space in his head right now!

Do you have any idea why your WH is waiting until Feb. to move out?

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I can totally picture that!! Way too funny!

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Brilliant job!

clap clap clap

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Hey Scotland, got any old family pics around, maybe from past Christmas's ???

Without too much overkill, you could get some out and display them,
pull at WH's heartstrings and remind him that he has a loving family and a wife
that believes in her M.

We've got some Xmas decorations for the tree that our kids made when they
were young. Old photos glued onto a small paper plate with a strand of yarn
for a hanger. These are some of my most favourite decorations.

I got a pic in my head of WH walking in the door and the kids are making
these same type of decorations only using family photos.

I'm sure you get my drift, just a thought.




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MarFor,if it's any comfort, the kids probably didn't see much.


BECAUSE THEY WERE ALL STRICKEN BLIND!!!!!


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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Originally Posted by Scotland
To get him back for this, I took 3 topless pictures with it.


((((Scotland))))),

Your my HERO!!!!.....Chin up and Chest out!!!!....your are doing wonderful....and I would have NEVER thought of this!!!!

keep it up darlin.... flirt

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Originally Posted by Neak
MarFor,if it's any comfort, the kids probably didn't see much.


BECAUSE THEY WERE ALL STRICKEN BLIND!!!!!

MF is absolutely gorgeous...but still, that's ROTFLMTO funny.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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MarFor,if it's any comfort, the kids probably didn't see much.


BECAUSE THEY WERE ALL STRICKEN BLIND!!!!!

MF is absolutely gorgeous...but still, that's ROTFLMTO funny.

OMG, I am sure they were too!!! If not blinded than at least emotionally scarred for life...what child wants to see that?!?!? BLECH!



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Scotland,

I have just read your entire thread after noticing your "Plan A" award. I am always amazed at how resilient we betrayed spouses can be when the person we loved and trusted most in the world has betrayed us.

That said, I would never allow semi nude pictures of myself into the hands of people who do not have my best interest at heart or anyone for that matter. A couple of clicks on her cell phone and those pics along with whatever story she/they choose to circulate goes to anyone she/they choose including being published to the internet. Those pics could very well become the reason that your WH left you or could come up in a custody hearing.

This site has invaluable information and advice but i feel that this was not a move to be applauded. Sorry to be a downer. You as well as all the BS on this site are always in my prayers.

God's Blessings,

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say, Scotland didn't send it to the OW, she sent these pics to her H...I still think it was a great Plan A move.


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I get what Say is saying and it's a valid point. WH forwards to OW. She puts them on the 'net (or he does).

Later, in a custody battle over children, the photos come to light....

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Why do I think it looks worse--in this hypothetical custody battle--for the husband who gives his own wife's sexy pictures to his skanky girlfriend, who then maliciously posts them online, than it does for the wife who gave them to her spouse in the first place?

tl

P.S. Not to say there are any naked pictures of me floating around anywhere. I'm much too inhibited. But I just can't see the unfaithful husband, and his vicious ho, looking like better parental units, in this scenario, than the wronged wife.

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It would be difficult if not immpossible to determine where those pics originated and to whom they were originally sent especially if they end up on the net.

God's Blessings,

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Many supposedly hidden, anonymous things are trackable, as numerous people have, to their dismay, discovered.

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Besides, it's spilled milk, anyway.

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