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Well, I have been in plan B for a little over three months now and finally had MY first not sad day today.

I am hoping it is the start of a trend and look forward to not having the sad moments so constantly. They really do suck BUT remind us that we are human and loving and alive...so look at the bright side while you are in them.

Anger, sadness, grief, fear are all natural human responses to what betrayed spouses go through. They show we care.

That is a good thing.

Planning a b-day party will be a good activity for you to keep you forced to look outward from yourself and to live authentically for your child.

My new nickname for plan B is plan boundaries for the beautiful betrayed. (It works for me.)







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And there's a better-than-even chance he'll never come back.

That's not true, here.

Scotty, you've got about an 85% chance of recovering your M, which is already pretty good odds before factoring in how ROCKIN awesome you've done.

Nothing is guaranteed, but your chances are terrific!


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Originally Posted by reading
Planning a b-day party will be a good activity for you to keep you forced to look outward from yourself and to live authentically for your child.
grumble She's on to my evil plan.
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Yes the anger and resulting sadness will lessen and will be replaced by the attitude of your choice. It will have strong roots too.

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Pep, I was also on to your EVIL plan and I can here your evil laff hahahahahahahaha......j/k


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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
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PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

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*I* want an evil plan, too! smirk
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Bomb drop 10/13/2008. EA +some physical, plus disclosure of long term porn addiction and "gaslighting" campaign to isolate me from our social circle
2 False recoveries 10/22/2008 and 2/10/2009. Separated since 10/5/2009 when he refused to get treatment for his binge drinking. Divorce final October 2010.
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Then throw a party for no particular reason, if there's not a convenient birthday. grin


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Then throw a party for no particular reason, if there's not a convenient birthday. grin

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Marshmallow launcher comes to mind .... for a B-Day party.









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At first I greatly feared there would be a trebuchet involved.


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When my son turned 7 (he's 23 now) we had a fort-building-squirt-gun-water-ballon party. It was fantastic. It was chaos. It was messy. It was boy-heaven.
But, we don't live in cold Canada or insanely cold MONTANA.

Neak, did you watch the Rose Parade and get all warm and toasty looking at our blue skies?

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Originally Posted by Neak
At first I greatly feared there would be a trebuchet involved.

There is a trebuchet in Monty Python's play, SPAMALOT.
They use it to launch cows.

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I missed it. *pout*

However I do keep an eye on the left coast weather forecasts, and am awestruck by the temperatures. When I see 57, my brain has a hard time understanding that number in anything but below zero.

Any more, I get ALL excited when we get clear up to 20. It's gotten so bad I don't even look at the thermometer when I go outside. I used to check every single time. "Oooooooh, -20 this time! Oooooooooh, all the way up to -31 this time!!!!!!!!!"

The only reason I still keep an eye on the wind chill is so I can give even sterner warnings to the Dervish when it gets really bad. DO YOU WANT YOUR EAR TO FALL OFF YOUNG MAN???????

Eventually, even the wildest, craziest thing can become commonplace and even acceptable - a fine metaphor for why Plan B is so important. wink


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Mom may still know where a fun little cow flinging game is. I couldn't find it.

Moooooosplat............


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Geez was that a HINT Neak? Maybe you should put a S in front of your name cuz You are a SNEAK hehehehe.

Pep- I am waiting for Marshmallow to come and say something about your launcher video hehehehe.

DS9 decided we were having a stay at home for mental health day and I agreed. We won't have too many of these for sure but I understood what he was feeling like. He has a bad head cold and has been having a rough time sleeping. That makes my DS's not so Dear and they become really CRANKY. Cuddle up on the couch under blankets and watch the Disney channel, do crafts and drink hot chocolate. Bed EARLY tonight though so we are refreshed for the morning. WOHOOOOHOOOO.


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Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

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OMG that is too funny. I so woulda bought one if there were any in stock. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Cows. and Monty Python is the best.


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Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
Scotty's THING laugh
Newly Betrayed click here


Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
? Maya Angelou

PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

THANK YOU
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Lol, Pep! DO NOT show my children!!!

Scotland, heh heh, I often go by sNeak, or even sNeakie-poo. laugh


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I missed it. *pout*

Quick re-cap. (Parade on speed)






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Okay. Wait.

People willingly LIVE where it gets to -31?

And someone posted that *I* am crazy?



I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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