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Great job on the messy games, Scotty!

I just bought out in front of our bank trefoils and thin mints. Mom is buying so mom gets what SHE wants smile


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We've never done Girl Scouts...oldest DD wasn't interested but youngest DD has expressed interest...maybe next year.

DH and I couldn't believe it when we went to Loewe's on the day of cookie distribution to the troop leaders...the parking lot was taken over by semi's full of pallets of cookies and the line wrapped around 3 full sides of the store, no kidding! I mean, I know they're good and all...but really? I can't even begin to imagine how long it took to get through that line...though I am appreciative to DD's BFF's mom who had to stand in that line to get our cookies. smile


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ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Second night in a row that WH didn't call my boys. I am angry about that. He used to pride himself on being such a good Dad and POSOW used to even comment about it. Well, I guess that was my DH NOT WH. And he is WH now through and through. I have always been the type of parent that doesn't impose my own anger on to a sitch that the kids are in. I asked them if it bothered them that WH didn't call and they said, "No." Then I asked if they wanted to write an email and they said, "No" so I am just gonna vent on here, document it and then let it go(OKAY only SORT OF).


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Sorry to hear that, Scotland! sigh At least the boys seem to either be ignoring their dad's inattentiveness or have moved on. We lucked out tonight and WH called my kids tonight. He was in a good mood and talked quite a bit. Nothing important, just idle chit chat.

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This is precisely what I HATE about myself. I need to change this behaviour for SURE. I sometimes react to things BEFORE getting ALL of the info. I was going to bed and I looked at my cell. WH texted me(yes I know, he's not supposed to and I am NOT supposed to read it) I didn't realize it was a text from HIM. I just say words going across the front of my cell saying, "...at hospital passing kidney stone...." I read that and then just checked who it was sent from. It said it was WH so I just deleted it without reading the rest. I am NOT even telling DSx2 about it.

It did make me have a weird dream though. My dream was about WH. My Mom was at my house and my Dad came to visit. WH came down the street in a front end loader. He tried to talk to me. I wouldn't talk to him because he was still with POSOW. He left but he had the bucket of the front end loader up and it hit power wires. I started screaming for someone to call 911. My Dad did. My WH came out of the front end loader and was okay. That's when I woke up. WEIRD WEIRD.


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In Plan B, WH isn't supposed to contact you directly except in case of emergency. Having felt a kidney stone myself, I would call it an emergency, lol.

Having said that, it's probably just as well you didn't read the rest - you got all the important info.

Your dream is pretty accurate, too. WS's seldom come out ok till there's a crash. You can't make an omelet without breaking a few power lines, or something like that.


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Just checkin in Scotty. Hang in there and keep up the good work.


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Originally Posted by Scotland
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Second night in a row that WH didn't call my boys. I am angry about that. He used to pride himself on being such a good Dad and POSOW used to even comment about it. Well, I guess that was my DH NOT WH. And he is WH now through and through. I have always been the type of parent that doesn't impose my own anger on to a sitch that the kids are in. I asked them if it bothered them that WH didn't call and they said, "No." Then I asked if they wanted to write an email and they said, "No" so I am just gonna vent on here, document it and then let it go(OKAY only SORT OF).

Honestly, these kids FEEL that he is waynerd dad, and waynerd dad is WAY different that real dad. That's why they don't want to communicate with him. They know the difference.

Smart boys, your kids.

(and I stepped on a tech deck screwdriver last night...I said words that would peel paint)


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Well, now ya know. Kidney stone. Poor guy.

As for the dream, well, I have similar dreams often in B.

I prefer not recalling them when I wake up. I figure they are to work through the situation but they are a bit disconcerting to think about.

So. Onward we all go.

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I too have had a kidney stone. Many people liken it to child birth and to some point I agree. I didn't bring home my kidney stone and nurture it though. I wasn't HAPPY to experience THAT.

I feel bad for him but in a LITTLE way(okay maybe not so LITTLE), I am happy he is feeling some PAIN. My friend said that it is funny. My WH hasn't been to the emergency room in 14 years and now he has been twice in 2 months. I thought that was a little funny too.

Dea-I never thought of it like that. That makes PERFECT sense. They don't see him as their real Dad, he is an alien to them too. LIGHT BULB. BRAVA. Learning everyday. laugh I am a student of life.

Hey, I came up with a few more things I could become. Here are a few I am tossing around at the moment, virtual assistant, air traffic controller, web designer and PR Rep. Lots of options for me out there and things I might enjoy doing. laugh


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I think you could do anything you set your mind to..(Is that to much of a guidance counselor quote?) Lol

How about a guidance counselr?


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SSO-That would be an idea. I just have to become a TEACHER first. I will add it to my list. I have thought about a career counselor. My list keeps growing and that to me is a good thing. I will just have to pick one, devise a PLAN and then go for it.

I am watching Fireproof right now and I must say, I pulled out the box of tissues. WOW, no wonder everyone talks about how AWESOME this movie is.

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I'd suggest virtual assistant. Easier to work from home that way and you can work while the kids are at school.

I've done a few freelance things of that nature and pretty much sat in front of a computer for a while. Works if you enjoy computers.


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If you liked Fireproof, you'll also like their other movies. We just watched Flywheel last night. It was AJ's first time seeing it, and he almost injured himself laughing.


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I LOVE COMPUTERS. That is how that one got on the list. That is also why Web Designer is on the list too because I took 1st year Computer Programming in College and I loved it. Even better was that when I went back to my HS to apply for college, I told my GC what I was applying for and he said, "About time."

I am keeping my options open and seeing what would be the best fit. It isn't about money(although it's not like I wanna work for FREE), it's about how it fits with my new reality and how it makes me feel.


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How about Diva?

I'm putting in my application, ASAP.

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How much does it pay to be a professional DIVA? Is it more than a professional disco roller skater? HAHAHAHAHAHA

Can't really laff too much right now, I musta used a half a box of kleenex watching that movie.


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I think becoming a DIVA is a prerequisite to become a "Housewife of _____ County". Job looks easy though... fight with your friends, fight with your husband, be snarky, go shopping, spend money you don't have, party all the time and pretend you're having a wonderful time doing it! I don't think you'd make it as a Housewife though, you're waaayyy too nice. smile


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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
I think becoming a DIVA is a prerequisite to become a "Housewife of _____ County". Job looks easy though... fight with your friends, fight with your husband, be snarky, go shopping, spend money you don't have, party all the time and pretend you're having a wonderful time doing it! I don't think you'd make it as a Housewife though, you're waaayyy too nice. smile

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I think you forgot the first prereq and that is the GIANT FAKE TATAS. That is one series of show I am proud to say I have NEVER watched.


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