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He's sweet, too. (If you ignore his need to devour moving vehicles.)


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Well girls, Should scotty block the email and explain to the kids that Daddy is again breaking the rules? Also have the IMs relay the message?


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I think that she should ignore it. It didn't come through the proper channels after all.


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Originally Posted by Scotland
or I have to do an Operation Olive Branch: PART DEUX. SHUDDER. I am not looking forward to that again. I mean the feelings that show up a few days later.

You don't ever have to do another one ... unless you want to.

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Well, that would have been a thought, but instead I did talk to IM's and they did send him an email pretty much saying that it is not okay to send messages through the boys, and if WH needs to send messages to me, he should send it to them and they will pass on the relevant info. They also told WH that they will be filtering the boys' emails from now on.

I don't think that was a bad thing to do. Especially after WH tried to find out DS7's shoe size on Saturday night. I can see how it would have been better to just ignore it but since this is already done, I will just have to file that for next time. This Plan B thing is hard to figure out sometimes but I am learning.


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Originally Posted by Scotland
This Plan B thing is hard to figure out sometimes but I am learning.
hugScotty hug

if only those in Plan B were HALF as good at it as you.... Honey, you're doing GREAT!!!!.....don't start doubting yourself now...... wink

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Oh BOOGERS. Just got an email from IM's saying that WH would like to remind me not to send messages through the children like Saturday. Well, I am not engaging that one. I didn't actually send the message but I am not going to defend myself on that one. It is DONE and I will not respond to anything, just like I did with the text message. Well, learning is a GREAT GIG. laugh


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Not-It's not that I am doubting myself, I just like to do things to the best of my abilities and sometimes I feel like I did something wrong and I should have known better. My Dad always told me that we learn something new everyday and the day we stop learning is the day we die(only because he believes that you join with GOD and gain all knowledge). I just have to remember to stick with my PLAN and I will be okay. laugh


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Originally Posted by Scotland
Oh BOOGERS. Just got an email from IM's saying that WH would like to remind me not to send messages through the children like Saturday.

Oh goodie.
We can have some fun with this!

WH is schooling his BW (Miss Scotty-pants) on proper Plan B etiquette. flirt
Let's all pay close attention. rotflmao





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OMG pep I was doin that "vector Victor thing in my head today lol

Scotty you ARE doin great...


BOOGERS? could she BE any more cute ? LOL rotflmao

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Boogers is my child and work appropriate swear word. laugh


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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Originally Posted by Scotland
Oh BOOGERS. Just got an email from IM's saying that WH would like to remind me not to send messages through the children like Saturday.

Oh goodie.
We can have some fun with this!

WH is schooling his BW (Miss Scotty-pants) on proper Plan B etiquette. flirt
Let's all pay close attention. rotflmao





Too funny Pep!

Hey vets, is there anything to WH trying to instigate something here? Is he telegraphing anything?

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Opt- My WH has always had a problem with following my Plan B. He has not been happy about the NC AT ALL. A few of my IRL friends believe that some of the things he does or says is just so I will crack. Could be, but it really doesn't matter to me. WH forwarded a message from the phone company that was a reminder that the bill hadn't been paid. I have access to it online and it will be paid on Friday so no biggie. I changed the email address that the reminder gets sent to, so I don't have to worry anymore.

WH knows that he could have and should have sent it to the IM's but DS9's slip might have made WH think that I had opened the curtain.

WH is telling DS9 to wave when I open the house door so he knows I am home. He only does that when I don't stand behind the door(we have frosted windows and once I realized WH could see in, I stay back). I also won't talk at all while the kids are on the phone. He also lets the answering machine pick up now when he calls(it is my voice on the message, I think my mission for tomorrow is to get the kids to record a new message)

Tonight when WH called DS9, he told him that he was playing pool 3 blocks away from our house. DS9 said, "Should I tell Mommy where you are playing?" and then he became quiet. It was funny. Maybe he is making sure that he doesn't cross the line and get a message from IM's again.

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I think my mission for tomorrow is to get the kids to record a new message

Oooh, ya beat me to it. Great idea!

The meaning to his little kick of late is not so deep. He doesn't like Plan B, it drives him nuts that he thinks you broke PB to pass messages but won't let him, and it will drive him even nutser when you don't respond to his response to not send messages to the kids.

Lol at Pep, Professor Mr. Scotland.


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If my WH ever makes it to this board, that should be his nickname HAHAHAHAHA Prof Mr Scotland. I LOVE IT.

I had a good laugh at Pep's comments too.

So what should I be when I grow up? HAHAHAHA sorry, I had to change the subject and I couldn't think of what to write. ME ME ME. Refocusing now.

BTW neak. "Nutser" is that a word I have never heard of before? Oops I googled it(I LOVE GOOGLE) and this is the definition of the word in the urban dictionary(learned something new AGAIN today)"a somewhat kind term for someone who has clearly lost their sh_t. Especially someone who was somewhat crazy to begin with, but has somehow surpassed crazy. this word especially refers to ex's, bosses, housemates, ex-housemates... and ex's" Hmmmmm a word to add to our vocab for sure. laugh


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You added a word to mine, too - I thought I made it up. grin


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I thought you did too. Then I decided for FUN to google it. When it came up with a definition, I was FLOORED. HAHAHAHAHA


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I've gone plumb nutser! rotflmao


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Keep it down will ya?HAHAHAHAHA I'm going to bed now. Even though it's March Break, the boys still get up at 7(shudder).


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Oh, I had the most HORRIBLE dream this morning. I was waiting outside for WH to drop off the kids. He pulled up and we started talking. I got in to the truck and WH was talking to me about things his mom had given him from his childhood(their apt burned down when he was 5 so there is actually nothing from that time). I was talking to him and asking him how things were going. It was easy. Then we got out of the truck. He sat down and I sat on his lap and we started kissing. I was thinking about how it was wrong and bad because I was BREAKING MY PLAN B(I really was thinking this). Then I caught myself NOT saying DJ, and not committing AO's. Then I thought about safe sex, and that's when I woke up.

I know TMI. Sorry but it felt so real and I thought it was funny that even in my DREAM I was feeling guilty about breaking Plan B.


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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”
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