See what the guys/gals say, I have no problem deferring the finalities to them.
I understand what you are saying.

I think that they get a WW mind better than I and this is a Plan A that I'm not experienced with.

I also believe at some point, you need to start stating your position in this M, what
you will tolerate, and what you are willing to do to restore.
Knowing what she is willing to do to restore it, is equally or more important.
Her reaction may take some time.

M'd 22 years
BW-me
D-Day 08/08 LTA