Gerka,

Her statement
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"anytime I tell you something you use it against me."
is just her feeling sorry for herself and trying to make you feel bad for her doing bad.

You could respond to this but what do you want to accomplish? If it is something sort of snappy, you could respond
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It isn't what you tell me that is the problem, it is what you do that is the problem.


Or you could use the every popular
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Oh! Grow up!


Or
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You statement is patently false and a gross exaggeration.
OR
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Yes Dear!


Or you could just ignore it. You know it is a false statment, you know it is blame shifting. This leaves you with the following
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Don't blame me for your lack of morals, your lack of honor, and your failure to uphold your vows and oath.


You can do this many ways, it just depends on what you want to accomplish.

God Bless,

JL