I am so sorry you are here. I am a FWW, and I can tell you that she must NEVER have contact with this other man again. Does his wife know about this? She needs to know. I would also buy Surviving an Affair and consider calling the counseling center on this site. SAA was something I actually read on my own toward the end of my A, and it was a catalyst in waking me up to the terrible thing I was doing.