Gerka,

I think seeing her ugliness in person is the closure you needed to help you with the next step, whatever you wanted it to be. She cant stand that youve dropped the nice guy for what is, in effect, a Plan B.

This isnt a woman you want in your life in any way nor one you will want to have children with.

Heal, my friend. I know it sucks and it hurts. Perhaps youre past that point and are seriously not feeling anything for her, but give yourself some time to heal.

Coming home from a deployment is hard enough. There is a big adjustment under normal circumstances. Dont be afraid to reach out for support.