Originally Posted by dutchcourage
The sooner we are under the same roof the better. That is the plan I have at this point. That and prayer.

Hope is not a plan. And no plan is a plan to FAIL. You are making critical, strategic mistakes, DC. frown

We are people who have saved our marriages using these tactics. Dr Harley is a clinical psychologist who has saved thousands of marriages over 40 years. He will tell you that keeping her affair a secret is to ENABLE the affair. What you are doing is allowing the affair to thrive and grow since there is no plan to stop it, OTHER THAN THE WORD OF AN ADDICT WHO OPENLY ADMITS SHE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND HOW SHE ALLOWED THIS TO HAPPEN. crazy

Surely you can see how foolhardy this "plan" to do nothing is? If you cannot, WE CAN.

Originally Posted by Dr Willard Harley, clinical psychologist and founder of Marriage Builders
"Exposure is very likely to end the affair, lifting the fog that has overcome the unfaithful spouse, helping him or her become truly repentant and willing to put energy and effort into a full marital recovery. In my experience with thousands of couples who struggle with the fallout of infidelity, exposure has been the single most important first step toward recovery. It not only helps end the affair, but it also provides support to the betrayed spouse, giving him or her stamina to hold out for ultimate recovery."

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101