Originally Posted by holdingontoit
Because I like living with my kids. I wasn't happy before we got married. I don't expect to be happy if we got divorced. If I am going to be miserable either way, might as well get to see my kids at night.


Well, I fully hope that you are aware (completely) of how your decision to 1) live in a miserable marriage, and 2) refuse to improve the situation in one way (recovery), or another (divorce) is giving your children a warped vision of marriage which will one day shape how they behave in their own relationships.

If you are lucky, they will reject your poor example, if you are unlucky, what was good enough for you is good enough for them.

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