Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
She is not however ok with me asking to initiate affection, hugs, etc. The specific reason I asked her if she would be ok initiating affection is because each time I ask my wife to hug me, hold my hand, sit next to me I feel even less important than not having asked at all. Does that make sense?

SOLUTION: Don't ask, initiate. BE the change. STOP talking so much and just be the husband you want to be.

> Don't ask her to hug you, just hug her when you want a hug.

> Sit next to her if you want to sit next to her.

> Take her hand if you want to hold it.

Notice two things about the above? 1. You probably just did these things naturally WITHOUT asking when you were first together and 2. notice none of them involve asking her anything.

Last edited by aBetterMe; 05/11/11 02:11 PM.


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