Many men equate sex with affection and admiration. If you don't divulge your commitment to no pre-marital sex, the man may think he is being strung along, till you find someone better.

I'd tell the guy after a month or two of dates. You will need to find other ways to meet the affection and admiration needs. You may also need to convince him that he is worthy of your love.

Its not that men are shallow, its that they are very afraid to have their hearts broken. They just don't show it. (Its the macho thing) I know I've been there.

Last edited by Cypress; 05/31/11 05:05 PM.

Me DH 39
DD2 6 yrs old
Divorced 2000


I believe God challenges us with every crisis. Its more than just choosing good over evil, we have to learn and grow along the way.