Originally Posted by markos
Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
I typically don't like to discuss the "who's fault is it" because I'm compromised on what I believe to be true vs supporting my wife.

Another good reason not to discuss whose fault it is is that fault is completely irrelevant.

I don't have time to comment much yet, but let me just say that your family is disrespectfully judging your wife.

There are two Marriage Builders book chapters that can really help you with this. One is in His Needs, Her Needs For Parents, chapter 14. And the other is in Love Busters, Chapter 9.

Yes you are correct fault is irrelevant which is while I'll likely decline the conversation next time my wife brings it up until we are MUCH further down the road with my wife.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD