While SF is your top EN, you cannot expect her to fill that need at her expense. Since there is a conflict over birth control, POJA says to do nothing until both of you are enthusiastic on which birth control method you will use. It doesn't feel like it, but this is to protect both of you.

The default of doing nothing is not supposed to feel good -- it should feel uncomfortable! This will encourage you to look for solutions.

Research some alternatives that you WOULD feel comfortable with and present them to her. She has said on her thread that she was willing to consider alternatives.

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