Originally Posted by RareMamaJewel
I'm glad that you didn't perceive my comment about DH being able to "relax" as my way of insinuating that it will help you relax, so your DH can relax and connect.

Things don't have to be perfect to be good and things that "look" good can also be bad.

Yeah, there's way too much evidence here that it's not my fault he hasn't been able to relax and connect. We definitely have different ways of doing things--he likes to plow right through and get everything that needs doing done BEFORE he takes a break, and I shut down after about an hour and take a breather, then work some more, then rest again, eat a sammich, read autocorrect...lol. We have very different definitions of 'needs to be done' as well.

We did personality type tests a few years ago, and you hit it, his strongest personality trait is "I need to be perfect and good to be happy."

That must suck. Nobody can be perfect!

In full disclosure, mine was "I need to be strong and in control to be happy." LOL.

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)