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Glad to hear that. It has been a rough year. But spring is almost here (at least in California) and life goes on.

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Originally Posted by Amazin
I got burnt out and depressed. I just felt drained and beat down. But I'm feeling better now and I'm comming out of it.
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I'm soooooo glad to hear that!!!!......How's your faith and relationship with God holding up?

And B's right, those MB divorcee's don't last long.... HOWEVER, I'm glad to hear your staying true to yourself....though it sounds like you've had enough drama going on without adding another woman to the mix!!!!.... grin

Hey I was on the phone with Lala today. I told her of your appereance. She and W2S say hi and send their love.....

Now don't be such a stranger..... wink

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See... I spill the beans... make all those post's... then I turn around and look....

And not2's gone...

BTW... Nice to see you too...

And you're right... I have too much drama with the women in my life.... adding another right now might be a disaster.

KWIM? wink


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STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
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I always think of "grace" when I see your name.

God bless!

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I think Amazon...


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.
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Hi Kayla!

Hi Karma!



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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
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Hi Amazin. stickout


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.
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Hello all!

Just thought I'd touch base after a prolonged absence. Nothing's changed. It's been 4 years this month and 3 years in March since she filed for divorce. Hopefully the divorce will be finalized in the next 4-6 months.


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Wow, Amazin! An anesthetized sloth could hardly have moved any slower than this divorce. How's your daughter doing, or am I mixing up my stories?

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I know!

We were married 6 1/2 years before she left and the divorce is going on 4 years plus.

Ridiculous!!! But the reason the divorce is taking so long is because...

1. Pennsylvania has a 2 year waiting period for disputed divorces.

2. I had preliminary objections to Pennsylvania having any jurisdiction over distribution of my military retirement. (Which I won!)

My Daughter is doing better. She's got a job at costco. She's still in school but just by a thread. If she doesn't get her Sh*t together she's not going to graduate this spring.


BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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BIG HUGS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hi Pepper! Big Hugs to you too....

I was just re-reading my thread. I guess it doesn't really say much about my current situation and my WW.


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As a newbie, I'm almost afraid to read your thread. That being said, so glad you are in a better place.


Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson


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Well I read it and all I can say is Wow! For you to go through what you have and still come back here is just like your name states....Amazin!!!

Good luck to you!


Me: BH 36
Her: WW 34
Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9
DDay 1-6/2009
DDay 2-9/2011
DDay 3-11/2011
Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011
Divorce final May 24, 2012
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GJM I have another thread on here about my soap opra situation called "Back to our program The Guiding Light"

The Guiding Light


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Tiger: I was going to say that I was in a different place... not necessarily a better one.

But upon reflection, things aren�t as bad as they were 3 years ago and they are getting better. I see the light at the end of the tunnel.


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Originally Posted by Amazin
GJM I have another thread on here about my soap opra situation called "Back to our program The Guiding Light"

The Guiding Light


Reading your story and others is like reliving mine all over again. I'm sorry you have gone through all of this. I hope your happiness will come in the form of a loving Christian woman that shares the same values as you.


Me: BH 36
Her: WW 34
Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9
DDay 1-6/2009
DDay 2-9/2011
DDay 3-11/2011
Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011
Divorce final May 24, 2012
My Story



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Originally Posted by Pepperband
BIG HUGS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pep... I was reading mortormans update thread and saw that your son went into the army as a medic. Awesome! Is this the same son that was having so many problems?


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BIG HUGS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pep... I was reading mortormans update thread and saw that your son went into the army as a medic. Awesome! Is this the same son that was having so many problems?

Same kid. rotflmao
The kid who did not want anyone (us) telling him what to do .... IN THE ARMY !
And, doing well.

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That's great!

My oldest son is leaving for Navy bootcamp in April. He's going to be an Aircrewman... AKA Loadmaster. He'll get to see the world if he makes it through the school.

My youngest daughter is doing better but still has issues. She has a job at costco and that keeps her time occupied... She's come a long way in the last 4 years but she still has a lot of maturing to do.

My middle daughter can't make up her mind what to do. She went to St. Louis to live with her mom in the fall, signed up for a medical sonography course... then when it didn't start soon enough moved back to PA. She was going to sign up for a different program but didn't. She's impatient and just wants to do something for the sake of doing something.


BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
STBX filed for divorce March 2009
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