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am a military wife with 5 years of marriage and 2 kids and 2 deployments, had the kids alone while he was deployed and our relationship always got better while deployments, we didn't cheat on eachother but the distance gave us time to miss eachother enought to evaluate each other virtues and appreciate more what we have and go into a more spiritual level than just physical, now belive it or not we talk more by emails everyday than what we talk when we are together, now I just found the book his needs her needs last week and I just ate it all in 2 days, I loved it and talked to my husband about it and now he is reading this website and getting to know about it, and we decided we gonnna work in our issues, because of course no couple is perfect until we realize that we been doing wrong things without meaning to hurt eachother.

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Originally Posted by markos25
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Military marriages are doomed.
Military marriages shouldn't take place.

Since this is now detached from the original thread, let's take note that nobody actually said that.

I originally started this thread as a response to the statement in another thread that military marriages are doomed. I can't remember what thread or who said it... but it was said.


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Here's the thread:

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2340903#Post2340903

Nobody was saying that; it's just that some people were twisting what others were saying to mean that. smile


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I can't remember what thread or who said it... but it was said.
Which means SQUAT. But then, you already knew that when you said it, didn't you. skeptical


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Originally Posted by markos25
Here's the thread:

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2340903#Post2340903

Nobody was saying that; it's just that some people were twisting what others were saying to mean that. smile

Now that I look at it I guess it was orignally on another thread. I wonder why the moderators separated it from the original?


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Originally Posted by Amazin
I originally started this thread as a response to the statement in another thread that military marriages are doomed. I can't remember what thread or who said it... but it was said.

Actually that is a completely false representation of what was said. What was really said was this:

Originally Posted by Melodylane
Dr Harley stated that divorce rates for military marriages are higher than any other marriages. And that is what this forum was set up for, to find solutions. So maybe you can help in that regard?

And a poster completely distorted and twisted my meaning by saying:

Originally Posted by ChrisNova
Military marriages are doomed.
Military marriages shouldn't take place.

It was Chrisnova who said "military marriages are doomed" in her attempt to misrepresent the point of this forum.


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Clear as mud. I've been away for a while so it's hard for me to remember in my old age....LOL

Hi Mel! Nice to hear from you. hurray


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Don't venture in this section much... But!

My oldest nephew just returned to his wife and children in Japan after his orders had him "home" in the states for two years. I told him that when he got home, I had some reading for him. He replied; "Well, the Navy chaplain in Guam had us read this book - His Needs, Her Needs - before he would agree to marry us..."

Good enough, sir. Read it again.

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Originally Posted by Amazin
Clear as mud. I've been away for a while so it's hard for me to remember in my old age....LOL

Hi Mel! Nice to hear from you. hurray

Great to see you back, my friend!! hug


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