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SusieQ #2607782 03/20/12 04:45 PM
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Originally Posted by SusieQ
Originally Posted by Scotland
The Hunger Games is AMAZING. It's a trilogy. I had borrowed the first one from the library but needed to wait for the other one to get shipped to my library. I waited 2 days, and then bought all 3 books. I then loaned them to my friends, and some of them purchased them after they read them as well, they were that good. The Trilogy was suggested on this very thread.

I think that was me and FF? Be warned, those books are hard to put down!! I was in B&N with the kids the other day and saw a guy with a crazed look in his eye go over to the shelves, grab Book 3 and head to the check out. I had to chuckle to myself because that's exactly how I was when I read them - I don't think anything else got done for a few days.

Can't wait for the movie!!!


Good update BTW Scotty smile

I do remember you and FF suggesting them. I had a co-worker of mine come to me on Sunday and say, "Scotty, just so you know I HATE YOU." I said, "Why?" She then went on to tell me how she decided to finally take my advice and read them. She can't put them down. She's only on the Hunger Games, where they entered the arena. I told her that she hasn't seen anything yet.

I'm certain the movie won't live up to expectations but I am looking forward to seeing some of the characters and how they portray the characters. I think that Woody Harrelson as Haymitch is a GREAT CHOICE. Also, I am looking forward to Kirk Douglas as President Snow. I'm not sure about Lenny Kravitz playing Cinna, but we shall see. Can't wait. Well, I guess I actually can, since I am going to wait a few weeks.


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I think you should get a couple friends to go with you to see the movie on opening night! Nothing like seeing one the Friday night it opens in a theatre full of people!







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Originally Posted by reading
I think you should get a couple friends to go with you to see the movie on opening night! Nothing like seeing one the Friday night it opens in a theatre full of people!

I have friends that will be going to the midnight showing on Thursday Night. I won't be one of them. You going then Reading?

Gonna watch The Muppets with the boys now.


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Let me know how the Muppets is. smile


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I am not going to that movie.

But, when I look forward to a release.....I make sure to make the first show!
It is exhilarating!

Try to go with the friends! What fun!







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Originally Posted by Scotland
Originally Posted by indiegirl
Your personal recovery is great, steady, strong and with the healing of THREE souls in your capable hands.

Your Plan B is the one I modelled my own on, and all the benefits I have gained are directly due to you.

I think you are a beacon to Plan Bers on these boards and that you practice what you preach: how to be a tower of strength and turn the worst time of your life into a positive experience.

I know you don't like too many words of admiration.

I know that.

But tough, deal with it smile

THANK YOU.

I am the direct result of all of the people who helped me as well. They are the people you read throughout this thread. And some of them helped me off board as well. And it is true that when you help others, you help yourself.

Indie, your Plan B hasn't been too shabby either. And who do you think was the inspiration for this update? wink I count YOU as an adviser to me as well.

Uh OH... skeptical

But seriously Scottie, from victim to survivor and then to Over-comer. I am older but those things are happening with me too.

Time, in the right company, will heal all

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Originally Posted by karmasrose
Let me know how the Muppets is. smile

The Muppets was great. I laughed out loud. I had fun watching them modernize it. And I enjoyed it with my boys. DS9's favourite part was the Muppet or Man song, when Walter's Man turned out to be the actor that plays Sheldon on Big Bang Theory. He LOVES Sheldon. BAZINGA.

Reading, The Hunger Games is a must read, so I hope the movie will be a must see. Although, a friend of mine, who hasn't read the books, did say that the premise sounds an awful lot like Battle Royale. I dunno, but I have added that book and movie to my list as well.

CP, it is funny how through helping others heal, we heal a little bit of ourselves and sometimes we can see the advice that WE should use as we suggest it to someone else. Nothing but good can come from that.


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Scotland #2607870 03/20/12 09:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Scotland
CP, it is funny how through helping others heal, we heal a little bit of ourselves and sometimes we can see the advice that WE should use as we suggest it to someone else. Nothing but good can come from that.

Yeah Scotty, something like the pot calling the kettle black?

What also is great, is that we see the things we were afraid of, as becoming smaller and less significant as time goes by.

Then we can dare to live again, having learned from the past, and the past doesn't rule us emotionally anymore.

Its true isn't it? That when you let it go, another door opens. Done with the right spirit, all things, including our mistakes and misfortunes, can turn out for our sakes.

God is just waiting to bless us smile Just gotta stay in the ring

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Originally Posted by Scotland
Did you read the books Car?
Nope, haven't read them although after the discussion they have generated on your thread I am adding them to my list! I loved The Running Man as a kid (the movie's kitch now I know but from memory the book was great) so the premise of the trilogy sounds tempting.

As for crazed looks when buying books, I bought the first Twilight at an airport in Aus years ago for the flight back to UK. By the time I changed flights in Singapore, I was rushing straight to the bookshop in transit to get the second. Arriving in UK, I headed straight to get the third... jet-lagged and all, I was still reading when I got home in UK, lol!

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Oh Twilight, that is what started this all for me. All of my friends were reading them, and I decided to give them a shot. I read the first 200 pages of Twilight and thought, "What's the big deal?" Then, I found out. The amount of things Stephanie Meyer can cram into final pages is unbelievable. She is a great story teller. When I was reading Breaking Dawn, I didn't eat, or sleep until it was done. I had borrowed my friend's books, so as soon as I was done, I had to buy my own set. I read them 2 more times. Still enjoyed them. I'm going to re-read them again soon. I found some George R.R. Martin, and Ted Dekker books at the book sale. I heard they are pretty good writers. We'll see.

Today, I'm feeling under the weather. DS11 stepped up and took charge. It made me a little sad, but also proud. I'm saddened that he feels like he has to be the man in the house. He's so young. That's not his job. He should have been able to live his childhood, and not take on responsibilities before his time. Both my boys are good kids. They didn't deserve this, but they are surviving it, and THRIVING.


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I <3 your little gentlemen.


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Hope your feeling better soon Scotty.


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Feel better Scotty!
I ordered my Hunger Games trilogy on amazon. Will keep them for the plane trip.
DS 10 wants to read them also. Is he too young for them?
I haven't read Twilight books, I thought I was too old for them, but maybe now that I am getting younger I will give it a try smile


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Your DS10 isn't too young for them. My DS11 started to read them, but he wasn't that far in when he gave up. Then I loaned them to my friend's son(who is also my DS11's friend) and he is reading them. Wouldn't you know, now my son wants to read them. Here, a lot of schools are having their grade 7 or 8 classes read them as part of their studies.



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I LOVE the Twilight books - much better than the films!

I must give the Hunger Games a go, then...


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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scotty, i think your thread should be a sticky at the top of the board. when i first started visiting here, about 3-4 months ago, yours was one of the first threads i read. it took about 3 days! your experience and PR has been not just amazing, but inspiring. you're probably sick of hearing that blush

i am taking appx 200 boys to see THG tomorrow at a private (thank goodness, adding girls would just about do me in faint) screening. i have read all 3 books and am looking forward to the film - i think it will be visually stunning. and a great lesson on "reality" television.

i have just had a similar experiece with the girl w/the dragon tattoo trilogy. i put off reading them for ages because both the title and cover (lol) put me off. but they were great! i toe-tapped while waiting for another staff member to finish the third volume. i've had mixed reviews on the two films, but am going to watch both.

now, i came in here to say something about "good man" thing. i teach at a traditional all-boys school. one of our goals is to mould "good men." i see a lot of heartache with stepfathers. i have heard many stories directly from teens about their stepfathers (and the whole authoritarian thing). but i would say "a not-good man doesn't raise another man's children. a GOOD MAN does."

no matter how good your PR, is it realistic to live a decade without a partner, a helpmate? plus, what if the BW is young and wishes to have more children?

i can see not dating for 2 years/PR complete to avoid a rebound-type relationship without having learned MB. but for a person who personfies the principles, you are in a superior position to choose wisely, a good man who will benefit your family, not just a male who would fill your empty bed. big difference.



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Nice post, Letty. Good advice imo.

I hope you liked the Hunger Games. I took my daughter last night. We were both very excited having read the novel together. Great story, and they did a very nice job with the movie. Terrific cast and visual depictions of the setting. I liked most of the decisions made by the director, but had a few objections as well.

Katniss Everdeen is a terrific protagonist. A model of courage and strength for young ladies to admire.

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Letty - loved the post also, very inspiring.

Justthe3ofus - is the movie for younger kids? My DS is 10 1/2. He hasn't read the books yet. I agree to take him to the movies once he reads the first book. He is on the sensitive side emotionally...


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Thank you for your post Letty. As I am not even ready to get a divorce yet, the question of whether I could find a suitable person to share my life with isn't a question, yet.

I was shocked to hear what DrH said, but I do agree with him, and I understand. The fact that I have found MB gives me a much greater chance at finding a suitable person, but I'm not there yet.

I'm very very close to the end of my wanting Bampot to come home. I am a little bit sad about that. The door is almost completely closed. Today, if he came to me, hat in hands, I would let him try to convince me that he is serious, but I wouldn't jump at it. It's a good place for me, but I am a little sad that that part of my life is over. I'm still not ready to be divorced, and financially, I will still need to wait at least about a year, but I am getting there. I am sure that there are some who thought that Bampot was a better man than he turned out to be. Heck, I thought he was. At one time, he was. I guess he really changed much more than I ever realized but looking back, I can see signs when it started happening. Porn watching, chatting with women online, IB, etc. A lot of it happened after we had the boys, and I stopped working. I was focused on taking care of my children, because I always thought that there would be time after they didn't need me as much. Well, I was wrong, and thanks to MB, I know what happened.

I am not in anyway taking any blame for his affair. That scarlet A is fully tacked on HIS chest. I needed to look at my own actions, and knowledge at the time. I am CONFIDENT that the next relationship I have, it will be amazing. I'm more afraid of the dating scene than I am about living in my taking care of my boys cocoon so for now, I'm gonna keep doing what I'm doing.

Thank you ALL, for helping me get through the most difficult time in my life.

And, my story continues..........


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There have been a few times that I've been surprised by the depth of change for the worse in a WS. Bampot is one of those that I can't believe he didn't come back. I've finally figured out why I'm so surprised each time.

Because I look at the quality of the BS, who started out good and only got better, and just can't believe the WS is so stupid as to throw that opportunity away forever. And yet some are. I won't ever understand it.


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