It isn't easy to get rid of the persistent thoughts and visions of the A/what they did. One thing that helped me was whenever a thought entered my mind...I tried to stop/freeze frame and stare it down (in my mind) until it inevitably would dissipate. The more that is practiced that easier and the better it works. Try it. Otherwise...time...a lot of time. It can take a long time to heal from the pain caused by a spouse's A.

Get your precautions in place. Use the MB program for recovery and to hopefully prevent future A's. Recovery doesn't happen overnight. It is usually an emotional roller coaster.

I wish you well.

Married 1976
MB Weekend March 2003
2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82