A sentence that has helped me a lot to hold in my thoughts:

"She will be more motivated to work on her disrespect toward me when she is in love with me."

That helps me to put aside the issue for the moment, painful as it is, and address her complaints, which makes deposits in her love bank, and ultimately brings my wife to a place where she WANTS to be loving toward me and not disrespectful, as well as meet my emotional needs.

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Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.