Originally Posted by Penni4Thoughts
Hill, you might find that as your DJs go down in frequency, hers will too. Also, as her love bank fills it could get better.

Sometimes when my H and I are having a rough time, I find myself pointing out everything that he is doing wrong. It's sort of a passive aggressive way to try to make the other person feel as bad as we do. It's a terrible habit but it's hard to admit to it in the moment.

I find that if my H responds negatively, I feel justified in being negative. If he doesn't, I feel guilty afterward.

So true. That really resonates. I've seen the aftermath both ways. I've seen when I don't react, she always come back to me and do something nice for/to me. If I do react poorly she never apologizes and we continue the conflict.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD