Originally Posted By: Penni4Thoughts
Hill, you might find that as your DJs go down in frequency, hers will too. Also, as her love bank fills it could get better.

Sometimes when my H and I are having a rough time, I find myself pointing out everything that he is doing wrong. It's sort of a passive aggressive way to try to make the other person feel as bad as we do. It's a terrible habit but it's hard to admit to it in the moment.

I find that if my H responds negatively, I feel justified in being negative. If he doesn't, I feel guilty afterward.

So true. That really resonates. I've seen the aftermath both ways. I've seen when I don't react, she always come back to me and do something nice for/to me. If I do react poorly she never apologizes and we continue the conflict.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD