I'm glad you stuck up for yourself. I think you could have worded that a lot better though. You could have mentioned that you were not aware she wanted you to clean it out but if she will give you a heads up next time she wants something specifically done, give you a heads up and you will. If she gets snippy with you, that's okay. Don't react to it;you've made your point. Move on.

Or tell her that you were busy and hadn't had time to get to it but you will when you get finished with a,b,and c .

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