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But men don't understand that most women are much more savvy than that. If a woman were going after a married man, I wouldn't expect her to use any of those obvious tactics. She would be more strategic at setting the stage. [/quote]

Ya know ML, I agree with this 100% But I would think that the theory of a "savvy and strategic" women going after a man seems to go against the concept that these affairs just kind of happen. That it starts out perfectly innocent and the next thing you know both parties are caught completely off guard...

Anyway, I'll stop hijacking CWMI's thread and defer to the vets...