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Everthesame #2776566 01/17/14 01:52 PM
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Also, RQ, the sooner you can get your kids settled, the sooner they can start making new friends and adjusting to their new surroundings. Moving them at the beginning of the summer means they won't have that built-in social network, like they would if they moved during the school year.

From your side, being in limbo is very draining. ( I know I would be carrying around a bunch of mental TO DO lists, plus uncertainty about the changes, whenever we were contemplating a move. And we moved 15 times in the last 20 years.) Your stress will reflect on the kids. So the sooner you make the move, the better...

I am excited for you and your family...


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Originally Posted by catwhit
Also, RQ, the sooner you can get your kids settled, the sooner they can start making new friends and adjusting to their new surroundings. Moving them at the beginning of the summer means they won't have that built-in social network, like they would if they moved during the school year.

From your side, being in limbo is very draining. ( I know I would be carrying around a bunch of mental TO DO lists, plus uncertainty about the changes, whenever we were contemplating a move. And we moved 15 times in the last 20 years.) Your stress will reflect on the kids. So the sooner you make the move, the better...

I am excited for you and your family...

Cat, that is very true! Good point. My poor DD9 is stressing about friends and everything. I am trying to reassure her but it's hard when I am not certain about everything. I'll try to keep my stress to a minimum smile


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Originally Posted by Rocketqueen
Cat, that is very true! Good point. My poor DD9 is stressing about friends and everything. I am trying to reassure her but it's hard when I am not certain about everything. I'll try to keep my stress to a minimum smile

And the best way to do that is to not make the move date too far down the road. Because you will be stressed while you have one foot in each place.


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I think it depends on the kids.
Are they emotionally healthy kids?
Moving can cause a lot of stress to a child

Jedi_Knight #2776697 01/18/14 12:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
I think it depends on the kids.
Are they emotionally healthy kids?
Moving can cause a lot of stress to a child

Weeell, my 9 yo DD is very emotional. I swear she has been bipolar since she was a toddler. She is very sensitive about friends. How this one wouldnt play with her and that one was mean to her. So I understand. But she can also be very sweet. I will do whatever I can to keep her social.

Last night I had a nightmare that I found another phone (a blackberry like he used to have) in kiss' car and was trying to figure out how to find the texts on it. It's been 3 years! Crazy how this stuff can still sneak into our minds even in sleep!

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I'm sorry you are still having nightmares.

About your DD9, have you looked into activities and events in your new area that would enhance the social options? For example, new church groups, community classes, 4-H programs or other after-school programs. Maybe by checking into your options now and then letting your DD9 choose to do some of them would help her have something to look forward to and would help her feel more in control of her situation with moving.

I hope everything goes perfectly for the move.


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BlairBluefin #2776796 01/18/14 08:31 PM
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That's a great idea, Blair! I'll check it out.

Btw, I realized that was a typo above. It's been 2 years, not 3. Its getting easier.

Everthesame #2778280 01/24/14 02:08 PM
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Forgive me, RQ, but you actually sounded sort of frustrated (you barely spoke) on that last phone call.

Or maybe it's because you come across very differently on the radio than you do here!

You had said that it wasn't feasible to stay in your area on KISS's salary. Are you going to try that anyway?

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kerala #2778334 01/24/14 10:53 PM
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Kerala, no, I wasn't frustrated. I was sitting in a parking lot on my lunch break, though, so it was kind of weird! Lol

Still planning on the move to Florida. We started going through stuff and getting rid of things. I'm looking at a place in Florida on Tuesday.

Everthesame #2778419 01/25/14 03:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Rocketqueen
Brainhurts, would you mind linking the 12/25 (a rebroadcast maybe)
show for me involving a caller named Lakesha (?). The question she had was how to make her marriage work and Dr Harley answered her with all of the requirements including lifestyle changes, etc. I'd really like to write down what he said as a goal for myself.

Thanks!
Is this the clip RQ?

Radio Clip


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BrainHurts #2778475 01/26/14 09:34 AM
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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Originally Posted by Rocketqueen
Brainhurts, would you mind linking the 12/25 (a rebroadcast maybe)
show for me involving a caller named Lakesha (?). The question she had was how to make her marriage work and Dr Harley answered her with all of the requirements including lifestyle changes, etc. I'd really like to write down what he said as a goal for myself.

Thanks!
Is this the clip RQ?

Radio Clip

Brainy! Forget librarian, your a magician! That was one of the calls that I had wanted to hear again. Sounds like me, doesn't it?

The other one was by the same emailer and she asked "how can I make my marriage work?".

Thank you!

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Getting ready to make the leap. Putting in memo on Wednesday (when a boss will actually be here). Last day at job will be 2/28!

Condo (if our application process goes smoothly) will be available March 25 soooo heading south March 22. Kids school starts March 31.

The wheel has started.....scared and excited all at the same time..

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Way to go, RQ!!! So proud of you making this leap!


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BlairBluefin #2780743 02/03/14 01:38 PM
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Originally Posted by BlairBluefin
Way to go, RQ!!! So proud of you making this leap!

Awwww, thanks Blair!

It took a long time for me to realize that the only way things will change...is to change them.

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Originally Posted by Rocketqueen
Getting ready to make the leap. Putting in memo on Wednesday (when a boss will actually be here). Last day at job will be 2/28!

Condo (if our application process goes smoothly) will be available March 25 soooo heading south March 22. Kids school starts March 31.

The wheel has started.....scared and excited all at the same time..

Excellent, RQ!
I am so excited for you!!


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Ah, prep for correction of recto-cranial inversion has been scheduled!

Let's see if the procedure produces success!


"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr

"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer

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An update......that there is nothing new to report crazy

I have put in a couple of job apps but have not heard anything yet. Kiss has said that he has made calls and sent e-mails but has not been able to find a position to transfer to.

In the meantime, I have 2 weeks until my last day of work. (Unless I pull the papers)

I'm just hoping and praying that something happens.

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Thanks for the update, RQ. This must be a scary time for you. I am breathing for you!!



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It is, cat! I just got an email from the county that I need to take a written test for one of the positions. Looks like I'll have to take a quick trip to FL as soon as possible.

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