BR, giving advice is always easier than taking it. That shouldn't invalidate good advice. None of us is perfect (obviously!), but the closer the new positive thought follows the old negative reaction, the greater our chance of making immediate ammends and changing the outcome. This issue of establishing healthy boundaries vs. controlling is a tough one. Sounds like you're doing great, trust can't come over night.

"I just had a horrible thought." As good as you're doing, I'm worried that you might soon be leaving us for the "Recovery" forum. I still like the idea of an Al-Anon MB forum... or maybe CoDA, which would include many more of us.

[This message has been edited by LetSTry (edited July 19, 2001).]