Gosh sj, I'm so sorry to hear you're not divorced from that s o b yet!

My ex would stonewall me on anything. Even when I was nice to him he would stonewall. I finally hired an atty and had him served. Two months of silence followed. I made no proposals whatsoever and waited for him to make the first move. He finally broke the silence and we reached a verbal agreement. As long as things were *his* idea, we made progress.

That's not much of a suggestion, but there's precious little in this world that would bring cooperation from him. Honestly, just pray for a miracle and pray that it's your turn to receive one.