I agree one hundred percent with Laura_lee on this one.

There is no permanence in sobriety without a profound change in attitude. From what you write, neither of you has yet changed your attitude. It sounds like your lives are still pretty unmanageable.

If you are a recovering addict yourself, you already should know that you are powerless over drugs, both in yourself and in others.

And I'm sure they told you that two sick heads do not make a well one. You two are poison to each other. Follow through with the prosecution and get away from this addict and his family.

I sincerely recommend that you concentrate on helping yourself and you own recovery.