She tolt me I'm in love with OM. I was mean. I ask who do you love morehim or me ? I ask her not to leave me alone with this.and ask if she thought so little of me and the girl. Now I got in an auto accdentin 92 there were two year I don't remenber much about.She stayed when some would have run.I'm disabled (mostly due to pain)I did the money, car and the yard. she stayed home with the girl.(she wanted it to be that way) then It all got dumped on her.things got better. she went to work and I tryed to be a good house boy. and take care of baby.By the way I taught her to cook.things got better home wise.My wife can't feel loved for long. She had a bad childhood ( mental SEX& was raped in the AF)she accused me all the time before the accdent. Her father did every woman he ever knew bad (cheatting beating and abusing) so I consoeled her and assured her My word was my bond and I would never betray her trust: and she was what wanted and needed.Because of the life she indured /I couldn't conceive her doing this to me (she love's the high ground as we all do) The girl knew in apirl something was wrong.They ask me what was up.SHE wouldn't talk to me much for the first 5 month. she keeps it close to her heart.I (being the [censored] that I am) told her I needed four thing to 1:Never lie to me and be honest with me the gref for lieing is worst that telling the true.2:talk to me about what happend (she had alwayed talk with me about how she felt and any trouble she had with me before brett,she stoped in feb} and what she felt.3:stop smoking (she started when she started dateing again.4: help me find a way to trust her in some way and make me beleave she does love me(I Don't feel very loved by her) she can't remenber what they are I don't think she care.I ask her to repeat what she said that night.So i could see if she was still pineing for him She said no no no no and walked away She wil not share the A with me so we can find out how she got on that road in the first place.I thing she want's a big D, but doesn't want to admitt it.I'm at a loss as to what to do next