I have my first appt with Steve H. on Wednesday. I had heard I should e-mail him my story, so I made a timeline of events today and sent it to him. What else do I need to know to be prepared for this. I am actually kinda scared!

Before I wrote the timeline, I wrote an extended version for me. I then realized how awful I made my marriage for my spouse. When I put together all of our years, it makes this last one not seem so horrible. I am starting to believe that it is all my fault. Should I just give up? My mother told me that if I don't get help with my issues, then I will never have a positive relationship in the future, so should I treat this as an IC session and just work on fixing me? I am not evil or violent. I was just young and stupid. I had skewed thoughts of what marriage should be like and I condemned my partner for not fullfilling these dreams. I have put up with a lot of immaturity on her part as well, but maybe I was just too selfish to see what I was really like. Please help.

hardheaded,

Definitly ask about how to save your M ... LOL !!!!. Seriously, you should have the cronicle of this A, has read about Basic Concept ... EN(s), LB, LB$, plan A/B and read HNHN plus SAA. Ask him any concept that you are not clear about. Let him take control and don't be hardheaded ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . He has rescued many M or many BS's ego so that they could move on and find a fulfilling relationship.

-RH-

Thanks Redhat!
From what I read you are one of the wisest here. I just never knew it was wise-cracking!!! I am hardheaded because I won't give up on my M like everyone is telling me to, or atleast that's where I came up with the display name. I guess I am just afraid of hearing from someone, who I feel really knows his stuff, that my M is over. I hope he does tell me it can still be saved. Thanks for the fast response!