I just called my husband on the phone, he does HEating and air so he can pretty much do what he wants. He lied. He had asked me to call s person and set it up for today, I did. The man asked me to call and remind him today at lunch. quess what, he told me that WH had changed appointment until tomorrow at 9:00 quess what i asked hus if he remembered his appointment at one he said yes. I called back i caught him. I CANT DO THIS ANY MORE I AM DONE.

OK I OVER REACTED> IT WAS ANOTHER H@A man. Boy am i glad i didn't LB. WOW, one of these days i am going to learn to fight these triggers. LOL This whole day has been stressful.

NA,

I feel your pain. My sentiments exactly, since I live right where you are. It is natural to feel the anxiety, just don't fall to the temptation and always confront. Get all the information, just as you have done. Let me affirm your actions or in this case the lack thereof.

Guardian

There are days when i feel like i am on the verge of total meld down. Thanks GUARDIAN for understanding and replying, somedays its just nice not to be alone in all this crazyness.
many thanks

Don't worry Not Again that you actually discovered a truth instead of a lie. We have all been lied to so much it is hard to sometimes figure out what is the truth and what is lies. I am in Plan B now for a week and H wants back. I told him 1st I will not see him until the end of his last day of work (OW is co-worker) Then we can start planning meetings once a week to see how our progress is going. I told him I will decifer what I feel at our meetings is the truth because it will take a "hell" of a long time to believe what he has to say. He told me 2 months ago that he thought he had a job out of town and we could start over. I then find out he was also planning on her moving to the same town. I'm definitely taking it real slow this time and refuse to rush into anything as far as packing up and moving if he does get an out of town job.
So continue to question all he does and when someone tells you something you are not sure is truth or fiction, investigate it first before believing it.It will save you alot of hurt like you haven't already had to deal with already. I have had to learn that the hard way in my little town and all the gossip. I not only have to deal with figuring if he is telling me the truth but also if the people in town are telling me the truth or just "smalltown gossip"
Good Luck.......We are all together on this and totally, totally understand how you feel.

Dear Still Confused.
I know all about little towns I would love to know where you are from. However, what if you are from my town. This town, everyone is sleeping <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> with someone elses H or W. it positival scares me to death, however i live in Fairland. YOU???
I am definitly waiting to see on my situation. He is still seeing her, living with me and exc. last night is the first night i turned down S** so he probably is running to her today. MEN sometimes i think bobbit had the right idea.