I dont think staying makes you strong nor weak. If you can handle it then ya do what ya gotta do. I did it and thought I could handle it...then he did it again...and again. now stupid me...I'm willing to go through trying AGAIN. why? I dont know. I dont know how someone can forget an affair. I think if your husband stops and commits his heart to you and goes to counseling then yah maybe you guys can make it just fine. but the fact is he doesnt want to stop. so it's up to you to either accept him living two lives or put a stop to it. those are basically your choices.
For me...I had to put a stop to it. I am already divorced from him...yet I stilllll keep going back. everyone I know...and I mean EVERYONE says how stupid I am and why do I do this to myself and why do I think he can ever give me what I need emotionally... the answer is I dont know. I guess we love them so much that we're willing to compromise our own self worth to keep it together?
I have read some on the other boards. I wish there was a way for him to really know the effect of his affair and discuss it. He says he doesnt want to discuss it. which means the whole communication thing is not there. so can it survive without that? But then it seems you and your husband have that.... but can it survive even with it if there's other outside interference?
so many factors lead to how we are feeling and the actions we take. I keep thinking about your situation off and on during the day and the fact that you're pregnant just makes it that much harder for you because you dont want to go through this all alone. plus Im sure you want him there with you as the dad. I hope things will work out.