Yesterday morning I had to get surgery for a laproscopey and my husband stopped by to see if I wanted him to take our younger son for the day and his gf was waiting in his truck outside. He wanted sex off me while she was waiting out in his truck. Is this sick or what? Why would he do that or want to with he right outside? Any ideas as to why?

sheesh.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

What about the fact that you just had surgery? Does that even count? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Susan

Trying to be a cake eater... Also, I believe that from what you've posted in the past, he's emotionally abusive to you and your children... and gf will not be exempt from this treatment from him either. She's seen how he's treated you, but has somehow allowed herself to believe that he'd never do that to her. But, she'll find out differently soon enough and reap what she's sown.

Best wishes on your recovery. Be strong and good to yourself.

Susan, this happened before I left for surgery. He hasn't called to see how I was feeling or to take the kids either. As far as his gf she said I am making her life miserable. She doesn't see what he has done to me because she doesn't see what she has done to me or our family. She said she comforted my husband when he needed it and needs it.

People make no sense at all....

Too bad you did not have that on tape for the OW... you could make her life even more misserable.

I do not understand the sense of entitlement most OP seem to have. They disgust me.

And WS in the fog are no better.

Hope all went well and you are feeling better.

in addition to what has been said:

he loves you (in whatever sense he understands love), he finds you sexually attractive, he wants reassurance that you will be there for him, he is worried about losing everything...

the docs shoulda grabbed him for an involuntary frontal lobotomy

But how does this proof that he really loves me?? Do you honestly think he still does somewhere?

Sorry, but I in no way constitute his making a pass at you while his chicky was outside waiting for him as love for you. LUST MAYBE, but in no way love. What he did was show another form of disrespect to you and his chicky. So if you had of agreed, he would have left with a smile on his face and then went to the open arms of his girlfriend with her being none the wiser. That is not love. That is PURE SELFISHNESS TO FEED HIS EGO, please don't confuse the 2.

<small>[ June 25, 2003, 10:43 AM: Message edited by: trying2_4give ]</small>

Well I won't feed his ego the scum bag. His gf can have him. I just want to try to get on with my life and let find out what a big mistake he made and how good he had it with his family. Today I got my support check and the idiot never changed his address at work and I got his paycheck for $0.00!!!! He gets $100 taken out a week for his checking acct and $51 taken out for a personal loan he got. Plus he has to pay for our health insurance too. So now lets see who the fool is. And he hasn't paid on his truck since he left in April, 1 more missed payment and they are taking the truck off of him. And I heard he has been borrowing money from his mom and brother just to have for work.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by goldielocks109:
<strong>Susan, this happened before I left for surgery. He hasn't called to see how I was feeling or to take the kids either. As far as his gf she said I am making her life miserable. She doesn't see what he has done to me because she doesn't see what she has done to me or our family. She said she comforted my husband when he needed it and needs it.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Goldi,

I hope you are recovering ok from your surgery. I had one also.....I said some crazy things (about H's 1st fiancee - LOL!!) as they were putting me under!!! LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

As for you messing up the OWs life??!?! I vote you just keep that up....whatever that is!!! The OW has to grumble because that is what she is good at! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Take it easy for a while, ok? Let us know how you are doing.

hugz,
L.

I am feeling a little better from my surgery but on the home front with husband it is getting worse. He is blackmailing me to let him have the kids all the time. If I let him have the kids he won't drag out all the **** that has happened for the past 2 years. I just want it to be over already. I have an appointment with my lawyer at 9:30 today and my father said he would give me money to do our divorce. His gf called me a whore for cheating on my husband, what does she call herself. I am filing for divorce in the morning and is it so bad if I then take the boys with out telling him to get a way for a week at the beach?

Goldi,

Take it slowly. Even exploratory surgeries take their toll on one's body.

Rest up, let him have the kids for a while. Use the time to rest and meet with your lawyers as needed.

Don't let him threaten you and don't listen to that OW. She has to make you look bad because you just look sooo good compared to her. Very insecure OW there. Laugh when she calls you those name and remind her three fingers are pointing back at her.

As for the beach.....go when you are strong enough. Don't try to do it all now.

Hugz,
L.

I just feel as though the kids and me need a vacation alone together and spend some time together, because I do have to look for a new job while school is out for the summer and I might not be able to spend time with them like I should. They need time away from the fighting too. I don't want them to hurt anymore. I love them and I want them to have a good life.