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mel, anybody need your help. please read the rest of my post lonely, know consequences. Someone please tell me how to deal with this loneliness, the pain. He's not responding to me.
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"No laughter or fun, no friends, Godly christian ones, I hate TV, Despise dog, and it kills me inside to see him so into other things besides improving our marriage"
Have you tried taking an interest in any of the things that interest him? It sounds like you "despise" all he cares about.
He needs to meet your needs, but you need to meet his too. My h loves sports, I'm not a big sports fan but I pay attention and do try to be interested in it. We go to the races and it is fun. My h has a dog that he pays a lot of attention to, rather than be jealous of his dog I love the dog. I could choose to resent the attention he gives the dog but I choose to join in and laugh at the silly things this dog does.
Maybe what you see as him caring about everything else more than he does the marriage, he sees as you not caring about anything he cares about.
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good points, toomanylies.
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i never thought that marriage could be so hard. till these past 3 years. Guess i thought we had this perfect marriage, guess i was wrong.
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My WH sounds like yours. Everything in our marriage was about him. He came home and plopped down like a big slug.
He was interested only in what he wanted to do. For 10 years I did everything he wanted to do, then started getting tired of it. When I started pulling away, and asking him to do some of the things I wanted to do (simple things, like walking on the beach), he had an A.
But since he's been gone, I have found out that I can meet my needs fairly well by myself. I walk everyday, visit with women friends, joined a women's support group, started a business, developed some hobbies and do lots of activities.
So I think that you can do this. Your husband is still around. Time to do some things to meet your needs. Look around for a women's support group, class you would like to take, exercise group, or something. Stick with us, we will help you figure this out.
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Thank you believer for the words of encouragement. I believe that God can change things and people not people.
Thanks also for sharing with me ways of meeting some of my own needs.(smile)
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