The OW was a client of mine. Few months ago I notice a discrepancy in one of her files. I investigated and found she was not doing as promised which would have been fraudulent.

We dropped her as a client, since many of the transactions were in our company's name we would have been part of the fraudulent act, even though we weren't aware of her actions. So we didn't press charges.

She has been making excuses. All lies. This has been going on for about a month. She'll make up an excuse and I have to find documents to prove that she is lying.

Today, she talked to my Boss and said that I lied to her. First of all, she is to much of a coward to even contact me after my H told me the truth. The excuse she used would have been hearsay, and I couldn't look it up on the computer to prove her wrong.

Luckily my boss knows me and knows how hard I worked for the OW, even after I found out about the A. I worked my butt off for her and my boss knows that.

How dare she try to discredit me. It is bad enough she is now with my H, now she is trying to make me look bad at work, because she got caught doing a fraudulent act. What makes me so angry is that I put my personal feelings aside to give her the best service.

I'm steamed and angry. I work hard for my money and take pride in my work. It shows me she doesn't have any ethics, personally or professionally. She is a schemer, and she will lie and cheat to get what she wants.

I am so sorry...

Does your H know about this? I'm sure it would be a major LB.

Are you really surprised though. Obviously she has no morals so don't expect her to appreciate your kind deeds or show remorse. She's evil. As long as your boss knows the truth there's nothing that she can do to you.

The old saying that what goes around comes around is so true. Just sit back and let God do the work. He'll be perfectly just. It's just a matter of time before your H's eyes are opened.

I'm debating on telling my husband.

The OW is very clever, she probably has convinced my H that she is innocent in all of this and I'm trying to discredit her.

Anything I tell my H lately seems to fall on deaf ears. She makes herself the victim, so WH can be her knight in shining armour.

He knows deep down how much I have helped the OW. I was always going out of my way and doing nice things for her. Even this past Christmas, I bought her and her husband a beautiful floral centerpiece.

Sometimes I think she will eventually hang herself in her web of lies. My WH is very smart man, he needs to get his head out of the fog. This has not been a nasty separation, but with the OW actions lately, I guess I'm going to have to watch my back.

Also this past week, I started to expose the A, maybe word got back to her and she is feeling threaten. Maybe my H is having second thoughts. I started with friends who know all of us. They are praying for my H and me and they know I expose the A to save my marriage. I did the exposing out of love not anger.

I'm so sorry. Have you spoken to HER husband?

No, I haven't told her H, he is also a client and I don't know how involved he was in this with her, So I want to step carefully around him.

OWH is a smart man, but I saw the way she treated him, more like a gofer man. Go get me this, go do that, etc. She loves to be in control. She also got him involved in some bad business moves, which he had to filed for bankruptcy. He couldn't wait to get out of the marriage, he filed for divorce on the same day he found out about the A. It gave him a reason to split.

This situation at work today had me steamed. I tried not to let her get to me like this, but it made me so angry that she would try to discredit me. I'm well respected at the firm and my clients know I will bend over backwards for them.

Before I found out about the A, she used to come into my office and look me straight in the eyes with a smile on her face, probably just have been with my H or going to see him. Pure evil.

Have you spoken to OW's boss? Fair is fair, let them know what a horrible, rotten person she is. Especially if you have the truth and facts on you side.

The OW boss, is one of her best friends. She helped arrange meetings with my H and OW. I trust her like I trust the OW.

I just have to be strong. Professionally, my Boss knows she lying and personally, my in-laws know all the games she is up to. They are so supportive. If I didn't have them believing in me, I would be a mess.

I just can't believe my H has fallen for all her games.

HD2,

Sorry for your mess. When an OW has to reach into the WS life for control it is usually a tell tale sign that all ain't great in the A world. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

In my case, the OW claimed to know people where I work and she had the nerve to say that the OW's H sent a letter to my HR dept. What??? To tell my work that she was having an A with my H? It was sooo stupid it was laughable. That is what I did, laugh and then decided to notify my HR and my boss. Both areas assured me that I had nothing to fear. My reputation preceeded her stupid threats and a letter never appeared. Not sure if she really knows people or was just trying to scare me. Doesn't matter. I know I am a good person and she can't do anything to ruin that.

Let the OW hang herself. OWs can't resist trying to control the BS on either side. When they can't their claws come out. Just learn to step aside and not get caught up in her web of lies. You don't even have to defend yourself. Others will do it for you.

Once I realized the OW wanted to control me as much as having the A, I knew I had her by her own balls (yep, I wondered about this OW, she seemed to be morphing into a different alien gender - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ).

JMHO,
L.

I remember a couple days after my H told me about the A, I started to cry and I said I felt like such a fool about all the nice thing I have done for her, especially going above and beyond the call of duty to make her happy.

He told me, "Don't feel like a fool, you do your job well, and that is because you care and you want the best for people and you are willing to do the extra things to make them happy. You are a sincere and loyal person. Don't ever change."

I hope he remembers that, now that she is trying to attack my creditability. He knows all the hard work I have done for her, even though I always was very suspicious.

Maybe this situation will get my WH out of his fog. Unless she has him totally brainwashed, he knows my strong beliefs and values.

I'm just going to let her hang herself.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> let her hang herself! I can tell you are a very professional woman to be able to deal w/ the troll at your work place. It's hard enough being human and leaving "work and work" and "home at home" but to have to be constantly reminded by this woman (or lack therof) of the ignorance of this situation...for me it would be too much! both work related and personal...

I admire you. Hopelessly...you stay Devoted no matter what...to whatever makes you happy. You are in my prayers I can only hope that I may be allowed half of your dignity & patience someday <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> More power to yah sista! We truly need more...