That's it..... This will be my last Marriage builder topic. I will be back to Fort Lauderdale on the 23rd of June. I am not getting a divorce, but I will be gone on the 23rd. Well Thanks for all your help and support during these long months.

My marriage is over. I will be okay.

Bye everyone... Thank you.

What has prompted this?

Are you ok?

You seemed to be doing so well! You were so positive!

Ill miss you!!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

harudah -

What happened? I hope you will still post from Florida. Even though you are taking a break from the marriage, we still want to know what is going on with you.

Harudah,

Sorry for anyone to leave on less then a positive note.
However, before you Go,

You started with:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am not getting a divorce </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But then closed with:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My marriage is over. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Maybe its just cause I got very little sleep last night, but Huh?
Before you close up shop any clarification would be appreciated.
Thanks

There has been some talks aboug me moving back to FL of course the main reasons are to continue my studies.... the problem is that I do not beleive my marriage is ready for this blow, but my husband is dying with this guilt that he is getting in the way of my education and he wants me to continue my studies.
Yes, I am trying the distant learning thing.. but I have not find one that suits me well enough. He doesn't think its a good idea because he said I was doing so well in Florida, and that it his fault that I have not graduated yet. I got mad because I feel like he is trying to do the "RIGHT" thing yet do not want to know how I feel about anything. He has totally turn into a father that I did not ask for. I tried to explain to him that I am not ready to leave..although I know a couple of months that I wanted to so badly, but I do not beleive we are at this stage. It's not fair to me.

So I told him, "I leave, you can forget about ever seeing me again, because you are making me leave."
He said "no, I just want you to evolve and being here is not helping very much. I will come in january to meet with you."

I personally do not feel like we're ready for the next step.......................but he isn't listening to me.

So with this ultimate that I gave.. he said "Okay, but in August I want you to continue your studies because I know its important to you and its important in our couple."
Of course he is telling me what I already know.. but you cannot force someone to do something that they do not want to feel. So i told her "If you start with this again, I will do as you say, but don't expect me to look back."

He said he could not live with that, and so I should stay..
communication, communication, communication..
Sometimes I feel like I am talking and he isn't listening to a WORD I say because he is making his own little plans.
I am so very tired.......worn out. I will leave in August, but I don't know....I do not know what will become of my marriage. I feellike I have to end it, because I don't even trust when he goes to work. it will be TORTURE for me to be so far away. In order to protect myself, I think I will start the "NO CONTACT" with my husband until I feel safe or until I move on.

any comments is welcomed...

I will come here if I can help, but I will not post any new topic for myself during those "NO CONTACT" months.

Well of course he was the reason you didn't graduate. So he feels guilty. And you do need to continue your education.

This may not be the right time, though. When can he come with you? Can you wait til then?

He have a government job and cannot just leave like that without proper notice. I must make a demand for him to come with a visa, which takes up to 6 months...even a year. To make it faster, he would have to come as a visitor and then apply here, but we'd have to get a lawyer so things get done faster with the type of immigration services that we have in the US.

Is he willing to come without a visa and do it in the US? I am not comfortable with that idea, and I don't think he is either.

Can I wait until everything clears up? (Yes, of course I can....with paying the price of missing another semester)
Sighs* Story of my life.....complicated, i think I look for complication......all my fault...I take full responsibility.

I am trying to look foward. I have been contacted in the US by my former employer who still wish for me to come back working for them.. which is of course nice....but (I don't think so)
I am also focusing on finding an apartment, and getting my stuff together. IT's very hard though.. I didn't think it would be so hard.

so, looks like I'll be looking for new sheets at Walmart..dear, how I miss walmart! ha ha