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I've read about a reunion board on the Web site but don't see it listed. Can anyone tell me how to access it? Thanks.
<small>[ June 18, 2004, 07:42 AM: Message edited by: Cherished ]</small>
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Here is a link to it. You have to register on ezboard and send a request to Way2, I believe. http://p206.ezboard.com/bmbreuniongroupHope this helps.
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Trix,
Thank you. I am moving beyond the all-consuming horror of uncovering an affair to go on with my life. It's time, I think, for me to move to the Reunion Board, whether or not our marriage survives. It won't end now because I can't get over a past affair. It will end if my husband chooses not to be in the type of marriage I now require.
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With the number of young children you two have I hope you and your H will continue to plug away at the MB followup program. It is worth the effort.
We put it down for a while, vacation and such, but we were just talking about it and will continue to work on it.
We completed the Love Busters program first and peetered out on the HNHN. I think we've been getting lazy and starting to fall back into old patterns. That awareness can be scary.
We also need to be more aware of spending 'quality' 15 hours together, not just sharing the same air space in the house in front of the T.V. etc.
I've always read lots more than I post on any of the boards.
<small>[ June 19, 2004, 01:10 PM: Message edited by: Trix ]</small>
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Trix,
I got an automatic email back from way2 saying it might be awhile. I think that my time posting a lot here is ending. It's time to move on with my life.
I think that, despite the encouragement, people do fall by the wayside in this recovery program. We are stuck on lesson 3 of HNHN. We got to lesson 5 of Love Busters and were having such a rough time that we switched. Embarassingly, I've sent many, many e-mails to Harley -- one quarter of the ones he's answered since mid-February. But we are doing 15 hours. My H just plain doesn't believe in POJA, which is why he is so angry.
Good luck --
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We stopped at about lesson 5 in HNHN. We still have to respond to 3-5 email questionnaires. It is not easy to keep with the forms your supposed to keep filling out. But I do believe that it will continue to be helpful to try to finish the program.
We can't let ourselves get complacent with our marriage relationships again. At least we had been that way.
Hang in there.
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I must have the record for e-mails to Dr. Harley -- 50 since we started in February. My H would like me to talk with the wife of someone who is writing a book on people who are survivors. I think that what is interesting about my story is that I didn't bail earlier.
I am trying, but it is tough going.
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