From the stories I've heard, the signature lines I have seen, it reasons that the majority of the marriages that have made it out of this adultery mess, was when the wayward spouse went right into recovery of the marriage ON THE VERY DAY of discovery, or really shortly thereafter. I have not seen any stories where the spouse has no remorse, moves out, is gone for months on end, where it worked. I would think it is because the wayward spouse gets in too deep, and the betrayed spouse moves the hell on.

Just an question I was pondering as I come to terms with being a failure at the whole "salvage your marriage when your spouse commits adultery" thing. I did not pass the class, and I was wondering if this had a lot to do with it. In other words, if it is a group grade, and my partner is off ditching class, smoking crack cocaine and screwing all the cheerleaders under the bleachers, how could I possibly get an "A."

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<small>[ July 05, 2004, 07:39 PM: Message edited by: SerendipiT ]</small>

I think your right. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Especially when it comes to WW.

<small>[ November 06, 2004, 10:31 PM: Message edited by: cellophane. ]</small>

Awwww...schucks...thanks. I appreciate that CP...you plastic wrap fetish, non-manifesto writing fellow adultery sufferer.

I wonder if Bayer/Tylenol cures that. "Designed to cure adultery sufferers of their aches and pains." Oh well...guess not.

I give you an A too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I can think of 4 or 5 just off the top of my head where the remorseless WS moved out for some time and they ended up getting back together. Orchid is just one of that group!

It probably stands to reason that the marriages where the WS ends contact on D-Day fared much better. I haven't seen any such trend, but if I were a betting woman, I would bet there are more successes out of that camp than the former.

One thing I have learned after having been here for years is to not give up hope so easily. Situations that I thought were HOPELESS had happy endings! So I don't discount anything.

Thanks Melody. I will try and read up on her story.