Hi Everyone!

We need EVERYONE's support for MARRIAGE FIDELITY DAY! Check out the site: http://www.marriagefidelityday.org/

Several of us old MB's are helping to organize this Day for Sept. 15th.

Several Governor's have already signed the MARRIAGE FIDELITY DAY PROCLAMATION and Media Events are being planned!

NORTH DAKOTA is one state that is on board and we need folks from that state to help!! So if you can help support this initiative please check out the website!

WE NEED YOU! Read the MFD Proclamation and you'll know why this is so important! Then write to your Governor asking for support of this!

TAKE A STAND! Because an Affair is NOT a love story!

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Marriage Fidelity Day!?! Isn't that supposed to be every day??? Whew, just goes to show you how far our society has sunk.

How about...
Not addicted to Heroine Day!
Not Beating my Wife Day!
Get out of Jail Free Day!
Tell the Truth Day!
Let's Not Steal Day!
Let's Not Murder Day!

I don't understand why common standards should be celebrated rather than expected. The schools in my area have become a champion for the average. No longer is excellence rewarded but they search to make everyone a winner. The most base of expectations are rewarded instead of expected. It's sad to say but that's a reflection of our society. Rather than promoting a day to be faithful, why is it that sin is no longer shameful? Why is it that people who do damage to others aren't shamed for their lack of consideration? I'm not advocating bringing back the scarlet letter, but please, let's not celebrate what is considered normal, decent behavior...let's just expect it.

jph,

You are absolutely right. This should be every day, but sadly, as all here know only too well, it is not.

The purpose of this grassroots movement to declare September 15th Marriage Fidelity Day is to bring FOCUS to the horror of this epidemic in this country...

...and further, to help to educate the public about the dangers of "friendships" that have no boundaries, and how easily one can find oneself in the wrong place...

...and that affairs are ADDICTIONS...

...and that affairs are NOT love stories!

Come one, come all! Take a stand!

We celebrate Valentine's Day even if we love our spouse all year long.

We celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day even if we are parents every day of the year.

I celebrate Thanksgiving, even though I am blessed and thankful all year long.

And on and on...

So, why not name and celebrate a Marriage Fidelity Day and take a stand!

Good idea and I support the effort!

Susan <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

P.S. jph, are you hurting? I'm sorry. ((Hugs))

<small>[ August 09, 2004, 08:34 PM: Message edited by: Susan ]</small>

Thanks for your replies!

I truly believe that if we bring Infidelity out of the closets and expose it for the decietful, painful and damaging force that it is, society will slowly change how it views it.

Right now, Affairs are glamorized in the media as "love stories". The one that comes to mind is Tom Cruise and Penelope Cruz....I would see them interviewed and they were being asked, "how did you meet?", "what attracted you to him/her?", it was horrible. They were being hailed as such a "cute couple"!! No one would ask, "how is your wife and your children dealing with your betrayal?" We can only assume that there were many tears being shed on the homefront.

Closer to home, I already see friends and family ready to accept my WH's Affair Relationship, allowing him to bring OW to family functions before we are even divorced. They may not even approve, yet they will adjust and adapt their own moral codes to avoid alienating WH from thier lives.
Instead, they should be saying to WH, "we love you and want to see YOU and hope that you can respect us enough to visit us and attend our celebrations without your Affair Partner". They should be asking him to readjust HIS moral code in order to remain involved in their lives. Not the other way around.

He is forcing the Affair Partner on them, because they are afraid to speak out and TAKE A STAND!

I recently attended a family function along with 2 of my children where WH was not expected to attend. However, he did arrive later with OW in tow!
When I remarked that it was now time for my children and I to leave, a family member replied, "why?, don't let them force you to go?"

I responded, "someone has to send a clear message to my children that it is NOT ok to have a wife and a girlfriend at the same time!! And if we all just sit here and ignore it, then we are telling them that is acceptable behavior!"

When explained as such, the family member agreed. I gathered my children and made it clear as to why we were leaving.

I could have stayed, and ignored them. However, I need to TAKE A STAND! It is not my intention to make it easy for them to carry on this Affair.

I would hope we would not allow a heroin addict to shoot up in the midst of our children at a family function. Nor allow someone to steal from us, beat their wife, or murder someone while we all sat quietly, ignoring it!

MARRIAGE FIDELITY DAY will give people a voice.
It will be a tool to send a clear message that Affairs are WRONG, they destroy families.

It will also show people that it's OK to share their experiences, seek help, and survive!

WE are all survivors, individually and as couples we know that we will make it! WE know this because we see others successfully rebuilding thier lives, we see people reaching out to others in time of need.

MARRIAGE FIDELITY DAY will help to reach out to people who are suffering, BS's and WS's alike. If it stops even ONE family from being destroyed, it will be worth it!

Please support this initiative!

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I cannot open the Proclaimation from the SYMC page. My computer keeps giving me an error/cannot open document message.

Can you post the proclaimation here? Thanks!

How about Sting and his wife? I saw them on Oprah and she made it out to be some grand love story. I was so sick to my stomach I turned it off right then. I'm all for MFD!

- Kimmy

OK Everyone,

Here's a link to the proclamation:

Marriage Fidelity Day Proclamation

And...just in case you are unable to open it via the link, following is the actual wording:

Marriage Fidelity Day Proclamation


WHEREAS, each married person – by virtue of the marriage vows – has entered into a covenant with his or her spouse, and into a covenant with the institution of marriage itself, and...

WHEREAS, fidelity to those vows is the foundation of a married person's personal integrity and the foundation of the survival of the marriage, and…

WHEREAS, infidelity inevitably wreaks destruction on families, in general, and innocent children and spouses, in particular,

WE HEREBY commit ourselves to protecting our own marriages by taking action that will maintain fidelity and by refusing to do anything which would undermine it.

WHEREAS, marriages are the basis for a stable family unit, and infidelity creates instability and volatility, and...

WHEREAS, each member of our community has a vested interest in creating stable, secure families, and...

WHEREAS, infidelity affects more than 60 percent of marriages in the
United States, and...

WE HEREBY recognize and condemn the perception of extramarital affairs as love stories rather than tragedies, and commit ourselves to protecting others’ marriages by taking action that will maintain fidelity and refusing to do anything which would undermine it.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, _________, Governor of _____/Mayor of
____/President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim
(month), (day) as
MARRIAGE FIDELITY DAY.