I need some help in a bad way.

I believe my wife is in withdrawal. She will not talk to me. I wrote her a long letter about my feelings toward her and my hope for our relationship. I am going to post part of her response to that letter:

"I hate going through all of this and hurting you. Yesterday I wanted to comfort you -- but I didn't want to mislead you. The trip (a vacation we just came home from) was hard for me, I thought we would grow closer but it was the opposite for me. I think you need to back off. I can't force feelings I don't have.

I hope that through our retrouvaille stuff we will get to know each other and I will develop them. I am sorry for the roller coaster that I have been, I am trying so hard to have deep feelings for you, I care so much about you. When I see you sad my heart does break and I want to comfort you but those feelings aren't the kind you can build a marriage on.

We didn't get here overnight and its going to take a while to heal. Maybe we should just focus on being friends for a while and living under the same roof.

You should also know that I do want all of the same things you do. I want us both to be happy...I have kind of forgotten what that feels like. I do want that for both of us. I just have to be patient and work at it. In the end I do want this marriage to work, not just work but to be a perfect union and a source of happiness for us and everyone we love. "

WHY THEN DOES SHE CONTINUE TO TELL ME SHE DOES NOT HAVE ANY FEELINGS FOR ME??????

On our trip she does this:
- Puts her head on my shoulder and tells me how much she loves me.
- Kisses me PASSIONATELY and tells me she really does love me but doesn't know how to show it.
- tells me it means so much to her that i am paying attention to her again.

Then yesterday after having seen the OM at a work function (long story, i will tell it if you want to hear) she comes home and is in depression. Now she is back to I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR YOU.

WHAT IS GOING ON HERE??????????

P.S. She will not have sex under any circumstances. She says that until she is IN LOVE with me (something she claims to have never been) she will not have sex.