Since giving the "back off" comments and the "lets just be friends and live together" my wife has done the following.

Setup a nive day at the park for our family. Sat with her head in my lap.

Kissed and hugged me while i was walking across the living room, for no apparent reason.

Played Monopoly with us as a family and laughed a great deal (first time for this since contact with OM).

This morning she was fairly cool (meaning not quite cold but definately something on her mind). I did not ask her how she was doing or anything. I just said goodbye and left for work.

She has been sitting in front of the computer for the past couple of days. Both last night and this morning. That computer is a BIG trigger for me because it is where so much of the A took place. They would send soggy emails to each other professing their love. Everytime i see her in front of it i want to race over and see what she is doing. I can tell she knows it.

Today i am doing better than yesterday. Yesterday i wanted somebody to stop this thing so i could get off!!! Today i just want her to talk to me.